tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.comments2023-02-08T06:59:57.013-05:00Divorced Diva's Guide to SurvivalUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger103125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-57284129425343982582012-09-05T19:59:25.094-04:002012-09-05T19:59:25.094-04:00Glad you are having the time of your life. Peace b...Glad you are having the time of your life. Peace be with you. M BeauregardAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-30285798188487096662012-07-12T22:33:48.758-04:002012-07-12T22:33:48.758-04:00Wow wow wow! This is by far the best I've ever...Wow wow wow! This is by far the best I've ever heard on forgiveness! A sure keeper! The message everyone needs to hear . Thank you for posting this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-68782656045818249152012-06-04T12:39:40.347-04:002012-06-04T12:39:40.347-04:00Boy, do I ever understand. Thank you for this post...Boy, do I ever understand. Thank you for this post. You can read about my own similar experience here: <br />http://remembering-my-journey.blogspot.com/2012/05/running-into-other-woman.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-42613768920913453072012-05-29T11:22:52.966-04:002012-05-29T11:22:52.966-04:00Becky,
I loved this blog entry! Isn't our God ...Becky,<br />I loved this blog entry! Isn't our God an awesome God? He gives us beauty for our ashes. I, too, went through a divorce after my 28-year-marriage ended to a man who couldn't appreciate me. He needed what I could offer but he didn't want me nor could He accept me as I am. However, God does.<br /><br />God bless,<br />Carol Round,Carol Roundhttp://www.carolaround.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-38218123856984349192011-09-28T10:15:47.371-04:002011-09-28T10:15:47.371-04:00I remember those days, Jon....the days spent in Li...I remember those days, Jon....the days spent in Limbo Prison....argh..it was not fun! It took me WAY longer than I wanted to admit to get over the whole "failure" thing... THE best thing I did for myself was:<br /><br />(1) cut myself some slack...it's Divorce and there is no picture-perfect textbook way to get through it...it's just ugly sometimes.<br /><br />(2) Give myself time to grieve and then actually USE it. It is so easy to pretend that nothing is wrong...to shove it all in the back corner of the closet...but seriously...grieve<br /><br />(3) reconnect with friends (especially the same-sex kind). <br /><br />(4) Begin to build the life I always wanted. Be proactive!<br /><br />AND (5) work on ME. Everytime I fell for his evil plot to become a raving maniac so he could look at me and smirk and say, "see this is why we can't be married," and I would spiral between self pity and self judgment. Once I worked on me and came face to face with my faults, he lost all power over me. <br /><br />As my horse trainer used to say, "Just whistle, grin, and ride." Good luck!Becky Lukovichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713707437591006643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-72581113232532645372011-09-27T23:00:16.248-04:002011-09-27T23:00:16.248-04:00Ah, I needed to read this post! I'm nearly fou...Ah, I needed to read this post! I'm nearly fourth months into the divorce proceeding with little to no progress to show. I can't use the term EX yet and have to resort to estranged instead. <br /><br />I long for the days when this is all behind me, and I can move on completely.Jonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656044262332577278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-84188798370772431202011-09-27T20:13:02.475-04:002011-09-27T20:13:02.475-04:00Amen! I couldn't be happier that my own ex is ...Amen! I couldn't be happier that my own ex is an ex. (It's been about 3 1/2 years for me too).Emily Suesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12106551525889307622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-45281083575559199012010-12-17T17:09:05.321-05:002010-12-17T17:09:05.321-05:00Ooh, Becky. That looks amazing! How can you not ...Ooh, Becky. That looks amazing! How can you not love bananas in almost anything? LOL<br /><br />Thanks for hopping with us, and happy holidays!<br /><br />NinaNinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06716809569287765619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-81759761980019406502010-12-10T21:49:06.656-05:002010-12-10T21:49:06.656-05:00My husband is from the south and he LOVES Banana P...My husband is from the south and he LOVES Banana Pudding. I had never eaten it before I met him. I can take it or leave it. I'd rather eat chocolate:)dluvscokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07642878004500984589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-76130708637562104472010-12-08T10:01:11.414-05:002010-12-08T10:01:11.414-05:00Why thank you!! I still have some in the fridge th...Why thank you!! I still have some in the fridge that I am *trying* to forget I have..... I keep trying to convince myself that it is healthy....bananas and all... :)Becky Lukovichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713707437591006643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-69085611872359351292010-12-08T09:57:16.107-05:002010-12-08T09:57:16.107-05:00That looks so good. I'm drooling at my desk.That looks so good. I'm drooling at my desk.Emily Suesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12106551525889307622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-84564548396734385072010-12-06T18:12:52.922-05:002010-12-06T18:12:52.922-05:00Becky - I love reading your life stories and thou...Becky - I love reading your life stories and thoughts. I loved the movie "An Angry Black Woman" and think Medea is crazy wicked in that one - she did some of the things you mention, probably worse!<br /><br />As beautiful a feeling as it is to try to get even, you are absolutely correct. Using your pain and suffering to get even by destroying the relationship your children have with the X is not the high road. Really, though, who cares about the high road, Right?<br /><br />Many times I wanted to tell my daughter things about her dad, but - I held my tongue. It's not right for them to feel your pain and abandonment......but - When they grow up, they know. Somehow, they know. Then, it is us, who wants to shield them from the feelings of pain and abandonment.Paulahttp://paula@hometoindy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-26402397160637902682010-11-29T15:16:23.831-05:002010-11-29T15:16:23.831-05:00Thank you Dick, Paula and Josh!
My point was no...Thank you Dick, Paula and Josh! <br /><br />My point was not really that Hamilton County is as diverse as other areas, my point was that is angered me that someone pointed a finger at my area of town and said, "that is what is wrong with our country." One can live in the most diverse part of the country and still live a homogenous, disconnected life. People who do not care about other people are what is wrong with our country..period. <br /><br />I apologize in the delay in publishing your comments - school was kicking my fanny and I forgot about them.Becky Lukovichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713707437591006643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-60898116069424658812010-11-19T17:50:15.973-05:002010-11-19T17:50:15.973-05:00Becky - I read this before and had the exact thoug...Becky - I read this before and had the exact thoughts you have! You write them so much more eloquently though!Paulahttp://www.hometoindy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-62616144758238525972010-10-28T13:38:06.327-04:002010-10-28T13:38:06.327-04:00Becky rocked this one, didn't she?Becky rocked this one, didn't she?Dick Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106496481515345645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-11925311365025772592010-10-21T03:14:06.715-04:002010-10-21T03:14:06.715-04:00Having lived in 46032, 46060, and 46280, and havin...Having lived in 46032, 46060, and 46280, and having moved 1000 miles (and 360 degrees) from there, I feel like I can safely comment on this post.<br /><br />Beck, you need to get out of Hamilton County. Notice, I did not preempt with "no offense, but….” Nor, did I post...uhm, post-empt with "I'm just sayin'." You just need to get out if you think it's diverse. Enjoy the wonderful life that it is there (and I agree, it's a WONDERFUL life)...just don't think it's diverse.<br /><br />There's a difference between going out and volunteering in some inner city neighborhood, or some foreign country and then coming home to the comfort of suburbia and actually living in a city with diversity. Multiple languages means that multiple different nationalities of affluent, conservative people have all settled around you. That doesn't mean diversity. <br /><br />The fact that you're learning multiple languages shows that you are part of this affluent, homogeneous culture of the 'burbs of Indy. Conversely, ask anyone around 30th and College if they're learning French...or English, for that matter. If you looked across the street from your perfect home on 106th street, and saw what looked like 16th street, then you could claim some diversity.<br /><br />I don't fault you for your lifestyle. I don't think that the place is everything "wrong with the US." I just think it's one thing wrong with US.Joshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06864229505425169204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-16477098119973354232010-09-27T22:42:41.075-04:002010-09-27T22:42:41.075-04:00I loved your guest blog "Cooking with Grandma...I loved your guest blog "Cooking with Grandma". I did a double-take on that picture with your grandmother's knife! I've never seen a knife worn the way that is. I should own a knife that long! My husband and I share the cooking at our house, but he does the cleanup. We've been married almost eight years and I can't begin to tell you how many knives have disappeared in that time. God only knows where they are! LOL Anyway, I'm hoping that some day you'll post your grandmother's Banana Pudding recipe. I'd love to have some good Banana Pudding! I'm really glad that you took the time to cook with your grandmother. All too soon they are gone. Thanks for sharing.Marshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03537853790210987703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-79504588752299110462010-08-16T10:22:39.791-04:002010-08-16T10:22:39.791-04:00I believe it's in Chapter 8 of my book (which ...I believe it's in Chapter 8 of my book (which you bought) that "failure may simply mean the timing is not right. <a href="http://www.failurethebook.com/" rel="nofollow">Failure: The Secret to Success.</a>Robby Slaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10699269507844868795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-91920469711573735412010-08-04T17:39:49.899-04:002010-08-04T17:39:49.899-04:00:) Me too!! If curiosity killed the cat, it'...:) Me too!! If curiosity killed the cat, it's a good thing that this kitty has 9 lives! <br /><br />Thank you for reading and for sharing!Becky Lukovichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713707437591006643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-10423384536858666862010-08-04T17:34:11.177-04:002010-08-04T17:34:11.177-04:00Love it, I'm a bit like the Pandora we 'kn...Love it, I'm a bit like the Pandora we 'know' .. too curious sometimes.<br /> Enjoyed reading so far, I'm a fellow She Writes!Walkerhttp://awomanspage.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-64311133776561217592010-07-27T21:01:33.983-04:002010-07-27T21:01:33.983-04:00Love this post. It reminds me of the lyrics to tha...Love this post. It reminds me of the lyrics to that old Cher song 'If I could Turn Back Time'.dluvscokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07642878004500984589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-31865996607602359492010-07-13T12:24:13.548-04:002010-07-13T12:24:13.548-04:00Hi D. You are *so* very right about that!! I am ...Hi D. You are *so* very right about that!! I am sure that it had to be very difficult for you to be stuck in the middle and feel disloyal or judged for loving both parents. I am lucky in that my parents get along very well and don't speak badly about each other. My own children, however, have experienced times where my mouth is open and running before I have a chance to zip it....and I wish I could have shown more grace and mercy even when I was hurting. <br /><br />My hope in (someday) blending families is that I could sit down for coffee with the former wife, assure her that I would never speak ill of her to her children and support her as much as I can.....and be true to my word.Becky Lukovichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713707437591006643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-88984834707178066282010-07-11T23:34:04.733-04:002010-07-11T23:34:04.733-04:00Well, although I am not divorced, my parents were....Well, although I am not divorced, my parents were. One tip I would give you is to not talk badly about the children's father/mother in front of them. This happened to me all of the time as a kid. Both sides of the family were guilty of doing this to my sister and me. Kids cope better than people think and it will be so much to their advantage to not have to carry around that kind of baggage as well.dluvscokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07642878004500984589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-66409741375278241102010-07-06T15:37:39.817-04:002010-07-06T15:37:39.817-04:00Hahaha!!! Exactly!!!Hahaha!!! Exactly!!!Becky Lukovichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713707437591006643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2349590021420274895.post-28580760549984897762010-07-06T15:35:18.429-04:002010-07-06T15:35:18.429-04:00I've often said I wished I had a "switch&...I've often said I wished I had a "switch" to turn on and off my feelings at will. Sounds like you know what I mean. Chin up!Ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06716809569287765619noreply@blogger.com